Purity in Balance

Written by Mathew Naismith

In every step I take towards awakening the ego to its controlling ways, the further away the ego in control gets from me. We will often come across this in our interactions with other people; it feels like one step forward to awaking while the ego in control takes two steps backward away from awakening. I would not bother trying to awaken the ego to its controlling way if the ego not in control didn't want to awaken. You must understand an ego in control, that it can't relate or comprehend awakening and only sees awakening as a threat to its desires therefore survival. This is different for the ego not in control as it simply sees a need for balance, a balance of the controlling ways of the ego, this is all, nothing spectacular or self-serving or self-satisfying.

I received a reply, as below, to one of my replies on the subject of our controlling ways. My reply will hopefully enlighten the ego to its controlling ways and what these ways are creating.            

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Reply

Thanks for sharing. About the westerner's control desire, is it true? As I know, the divorce rate there is high. That means people don't want to be controlled by the marriage and family program. Some tramps choose this life style for freedom, don't they?

My Reply

Being controlled is different to being controlling. Marriage partners don't want to be controlled but be in control so they divorce. The reason the divorce rate is so high is because they want more control but can't have it in their present relationship. Divorce is one way to gain control, not loose control.

We are all controlled by one thing or another including nature 

(性质, Xìngzhì), the western mind in all of us has problem with 

this because it desires control, not to be controlled. The 

balance between being controlled and being controlling brings 

harmony in nature. It's the same with ourselves, the balance 

between our western and eastern mind brings harmony to our 

mind and our existence. 

I am at present trying to influence the Western mind in

Western countries to express less disdain for this human 

created reality. I wrote the following just recently.

"Indeed, to judge is to participate, all else is observation. All 

participation is of the ego where observation is egoless. 

All that can't forgive and can be hurt or offended is the ego in 

participation. Participation simply creates ignorance where 

observation creates awareness.

How can you express disdain for a consciousness lost within 

its own creation, lost within its own participation while of the 

absence of observation? We no longer truly observe as our 

forefathers did, we simply participate to primarily serve 

the ego. 

I am not happy in the way we are abusing energy in every 

sense, but how can I have disdain for a consciousness lost 

within its own creation? It would be futile to do so, also, I 

would be of what I have disdain for. Simply observe and 

become aware." 

It's not getting through because the western mind doesn't like 

being controlled but to be primarily in control, of course the 

only thing in control is the ego for only the ego desires to 

control. The tramp is still being controlled but no longer has 

desires to take control; a lot of spiritualists do this. 

As I also wrote recently," Try to observe your own participation 

rather than participating in what you observe. Man is no more 

and no less violent and destructive than the natural 

environment he lives in. However, as many have proven, 

man can be as passive and constructive as the natural 

environment, the choice is indeed ours. It is what it is at 

present."

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In some relationships an imbalance of being controlled is 

present. All that the ego wants to do is bring balance back into

their lives; this will at times take the ego not in control to 

separate from what is causing an imbalance in their lives. 

This is different for an ego in control as the ego in control 

wants more control so again separation occurs. 

In a reality primarily controlled and influenced by the western 

mind, the ego not in control observes that the ego in control 

needs balancing out. As a lot of people are doing in 

spirituality, separation has become the primary objective. 

Seen as the ego not in control only wants to separate itself 

from what is causing an imbalance, it's obvious the ego in 

control desires total separation, like in a divorce of married 

couples, to completely separate (divorce) itself from the 

present reality (marriage). The ego not in control doesn't 

want to separate itself like this, it simply wants to separate 

itself from the imbalances of being controlling or controlled. 

How do you obtain balance? One way is to think everything 

just is what it is at the time it is. The following might help in 

this if you are interested.                 

https://tinybuddha.com/blog/life-isnt-good-or-bad-it-just-is/

Extract: What I realized is that sometimes I put way too much emphasis on trying to figure out what is right and wrong.

What is the right path and what is the wrong path. What is good with the world and what is bad. What I like and what I don’t like. What someone thinks and what they don’t think.

With so much unpredictability in life and chaos at work these days in our uncertain world, what I have learned is that it really doesn’t matter. It really doesn’t matter if we label life as “good” or “bad.” It just is. It is the way it’s supposed to be.