Attracting Truer People

Written by Mathew Naismith

Are negative people untrue where positive people are true? This would be like saying that people who have experienced and suffered extreme trauma are untrue people, while the people who have not suffered trauma are true people. All traumas have some kind of negative affect to them, this doesn't mean that all the people who have suffered from traumas are untrue, in actuality quite the opposite. You are simply being what the trauma has created. Even if you are still suffering from the trauma instead of learning from the trauma, you are still a true person in relation to the trauma experienced. An untrue person would simply try to make out that they are positive when in actuality they are still suffering. How many suicide victims seem happy but are in fact suffering big time. When you are untrue to yourself, you are untrue to everyone else.

Now, how many people are suffering in relation to what is going on in the world at present? This is while we seem positive only because we avoid the negatives as much as possible. So avoiding the negatives in the world to be positive will instantly make the negatives simply vanish? In all honesty, all this has created in past history is more of the same. In truth, being untrue to ourselves in this way simply encourages the very same negatives we are trying to avoid to flourish even more so, thus in turn creating an untrue reality.

People like me don't try to attract positive people, if you are suffering, show that you are suffering even if this seems to you or other people to be negative therefore of an untrue person. Be what you are suffering from but learn from this suffering instead of continuing to suffer from suffering. In other words learn from our present reality and stop suffering from this reality by ignoring the negatives to be or seem positive.

In all honesty, being positive or negative takes a huge amount of energy to obtain and sustain, especially in a critically judged negative reality. How many people are suffering even more so when we ignore the negatives to be positive? That is a huge waste of energy through simple neglect and abuse of energy. The trick in dealing with negatives to be positive, is to stop suffering from the negatives by seeing them as a negative to avoid to be positive. Instead, learn to not judge what is and isn't negative and positive, therefore, what is and isn't true or of a true person.

So what makes a true person? A person who is primarily honest with themselves. If you are suffering from trauma either collectively or individually, let it be what it actually is instead of what you desire it to be. Try to do this in the absence of positive and negative judgment. When you do this, start to learn from your experiences instead of suffering from your experiences. Simply being aware of this will certainly start you on the way of being of self-honesty, therefore a truer person to yourself and others around you.

So how do you attract people who are truer to themselves and others? Being in the presence of self-honesty, while in the absence of negatives and positives, will instantly have an affect on the people who are not of self-honesty around you. Self-dishonesty or being untrue cannot exist within the same immediate space as self-honesty, expressions of self-honesty simply disperses dishonesty thus allowing self-honesty, truer people, the space to flourish in. It is not that you are attracting truer people exactly; it is that you have more space in your life for self-honest people to flourish and express themselves freely in. See it as closing one door thus allowing another door to open. One door, one reality, has to close for another reality, another door, to open.                                    

                

"Who are the people that positive

people can help the most?

What people are often avoided the

most by positive people?

In all honesty,

how positive is this really?

Only in the absence of positives and

negatives can the neediest be attended to!!"

Self-Honesty

Written by Mathew Naismith

Most often our past determines our future and most often our past, especially when related to trauma in some way, to something we desire to stay unaware of, isn't something we desire to be self-honest with. So what do we do? We only live within the present while saying the past and future are irrelevant or an illusion. This is while time is the predominant influence in our everyday life at present!! See how dishonest we can be to ourselves? Time of course represents a past, present and future, a state of union instead of separation, especially the separation of one energy source from another to escape facing our traumas personally and collectively.

It is common practice for a consciousness in trauma, either personally or collectively, to use every means possible to escape facing trauma. Of course to do this, we must turn away from being of self-honesty and become dishonest with ourselves, and of course everybody else.             

https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/finding-true-refuge/201703/radical-self-honesty

Extract: Throughout history, deception has been an effective survival strategy. Yet, like all primitive survival strategies, when deception becomes habitual and is not directly about survival, it prevents us from continuing growth. For each of us, to the degree that we are not real with ourselves or that we withhold important truths from others, we just cannot keep evolving.

I wrote the following reply to a query in relation to my last post, "Assisting a Consciousness in Trauma".  

Basically, what you are doing is guiding them instead of pushing them towards a goal.

My father was trained to do this as a foreman. I tend to do this myself, my downfall is I also express self-honesty, it is funny how this psychologically freaks people out. Actually, when it does freak people out, their reactions tell me a lot about them. It is not that people react, it is how they react and what they react to. 

Our consciousness collectively isn't conditioned to being self-honest. How many of us don't look at what our own country/culture has done and is doing to others in the world, but we will point the finger at other cultures. Bringing a person out of the affects of trauma takes one to become gradually self-honest, not an easy thing to face, especially when we are conditioned to be self-dishonest with ourselves.

I have someone at present under my wing that is not good physically and mentally, the fits, blackouts and the scaring to the brain certainly don't help. I am slowly coaxing (guiding) them to be self-honest without causing more anxiety attacks.

This has done it, I am going to right up something about self-honesty. 

Spiritually, how dare I turn to science and psychology for the answers, this is while our minds are predominantly influenced psychology. On the other hand, how dare I turn to spirituality for the answers, even though science has proven a number of spiritual practices to be highly beneficial to us!! From atheism/materialism to spirituality/religion, dishonesty predominantly influences our lives, this is instead of self-honesty.

The article I have inserted is worth reading through, but only if you are a self-honest atheist/materialist or spiritual/religious, etc, person. If you are not into self-honesty, the article supplied will only represent a threat to your psyche and be promptly denounced in some way. Yes, by all means go into protective state of mind but do this honestly. All that dishonesty will create, either personally or collectively, is more of the same trauma, if not to you someone else.

Yes, I can get into a conscious state of timelessness, where there is no past or future, only the present moment, a state perceived by my ego to be of utter bliss.  At no time is this separate to time where a past and future exist. Of course when a consciousness experiences time, a past and future, trauma is sure to exist as time is of cycles and endless changes. Spirituality is about how you cope with the associated trauma in relation to time, not how you try to escape from time and times association with trauma. I could not think of a higher level of fear and self-deceptiveness, which spiritually is suppose to be not about, or am I simply being naive here?

A number of people might relate better to the following article. 

https://medium.com/@zaiderrr/why-you-should-practice-brutal-self-honesty-3b6088e05346

Extract: The topic of brutal self-honesty is consciously looked upon as worthy of pursuing but the majority of people don’t have the emotional maturity to follow through with such a concept.

Brutal self-honesty requires hard, emotional labor. It requires the individual to engage with the following:

Ego Dissolution

The ego wants you to stay unconscious. It doesn’t want you to be brutally honest with yourself because that means that the ego must change and change is not what it wants —comfort is what the ego wants.

Experiencing the Eternal Self

Written by Mathew Naismith

First of all, I humbly apologise to my readers who are unable to understand the English language as I am going to start this post off with a video that is in English. If you can understand the English language, please watch the video before reading on. If you can't understand the English language, I will explain, in my own words, what the video is about so you can translate the English language into you own language.     

The video is about experiencing no self, a state of consciousness that is not about the self separate from all other selves but about a state of the eternal self or divine self. The strange thing is, the eternal self isn't about the self at all as there is no self or even self awareness. The eternal self refers to the eternal being where all is as one and acts as one, even while experiencing a reality where everything has its own identity, its own self.

Yes, you can experience individuality while in a state of eternal being, make no mistake, we are all doing this right now, it's just most of us are unaware of this. We are unaware because our present consciousness is conditioned primarily to the self, individuality. How many people refer to the inner self or self awareness? Materialism or anything else that the ego in control feeds on is often of the self, of an individual identity, how else would the ego in control survive? I wrote a few years ago on a spiritual forum in how we don't even own our own personal thoughts, as usual this wasn't well received or accepted.

So why am I making reference to the eternal self? How else is the ego going to be able to comprehend anything if we don't refer to the self? The ego in control needs to relate to something to comprehend it and then understand it.

Any ego that is conditioned to the self or individuality in any sense, is a good indication that the ego is conditioned to individuality, a state of separate entities. I am self aware or I am of the inner self is still making reference to an individual entity, only because the ego in control can only comprehend this eternal state of being as self. The ego in control needs to start somewhere so it will naturally relate eternal being to the eternal self. It's important to allow the ego to go through this process. At no time have any kind of disdain for the ego in control, avoiding this will allow the process of enlightenment to happen naturally. Simply go with the flow and remember, the ego desires control and will try to control this process, try to avoid this by simply becoming aware of the egos controlling ways. Sadly, I have lost count in how many Western spiritually aware people make reference to taking control and empowerment.

I have at no time in my life have become spiritually aware, I have simply let go of the attachments of control. Yes, I have allowed myself to be controlled for to take control of being controlled is still control. What I have done is simply detached myself from control, even while being controlled myself. It's important to remember, it's our self that is being controlled, not our eternal being. The only way control can be implemented or exist is through the self as an individual entity. Yes, myself has become spiritually aware but not my eternal being for there is nothing to become aware of, only the self can experience a sense of becoming aware or enlightenment.

I, at one time, had a Reiki teacher say to me after my treatment with them, "You have experienced the lotus flower in this life." The lotus flower refers to detachments brought into being by the ego. I had to say no, not in what you would refer to in this life but what you would refer to in another life. The soul perspective is, it's all one life with different life experiences to be experienced. The ego refers to different life experiences to be experienced as lives lived separate to all other lives lived, however, the soul sees it as one life which is more eternal and limitless where the ego sees it as ephemeral and limited. In so-called past lives, I have had numerous experiences pertaining to the lotus flower. My soul simply sees life experiences as one life with no separation.

I know this is hard to truly comprehend but life as whole is not about the human self, it's about the eternal being which is often referred to as our truer being, or as the ego sees it, our truer self or inner self. Yes, it makes a difference once you start referring to the eternal self as the eternal being but remember, the ego has to start somewhere. Be patient  with the ego and try to go through the process of awareness without trying to take control of this process.

Yes, these are trying times to the self, they always have been throughout human history, but not to the eternal being. Your soul may want to stay unaware of the eternal being, I didn't even want to become aware of the things I am aware of as the self but my soul said otherwise, this is the way it is. If the soul says it wants to experience being controlling, that is the way it will be, accept this and move on for all is of the eternal being.    

One more thing, the eternal being isn't separate to the self; it's not a separate entity or state. The eternal being is everything in what it is and in how it is, this includes the perception of self and the self's ego and all the ego creates. Once you experience the eternal being, only then do you realise there is no ultimate state separate to all other states. All that is without exception is of the ultimate state, in actuality, consciousnesses, like experiencing human consciousness, can often be seen as an ultimate state for the eternal being. To be humble is to deny the ego control, especially while being controlled by the ego!! Not an easy phrase for the ego in control to understand, as I should know myself as I am what you are without question.   

The following might be a good read for some people, not that I have read it myself.            

https://www.amazon.com/Your-Eternal-Self-Craig-Hogan/dp/0980211107

Extract: Your Eternal Self ends by describing what our purpose seems to be in life, what true spirituality is, how people can grow spiritually to change themselves so they have love and bliss in their lives, how they can provide that loving legacy for their children's children, and what the research has shown about the world of the afterlife.

Going Beyond the Inner Self Projection

Written by Mathew Naismith

We most often perceive an inner and outer self, the inner self being our truer being and the outer self being our projected being. The truer being or self pertains to the self that is not influenced by external environments, where the outer self is primarily of and created by our external environment. For example, our five senses are primarily of our outer self thus giving us a projected image of our outer environment. Our inner self at no time is influenced by our five senses thus giving us a projected image of our inner environment. Of course if you are totally reliant on the five senses, nothing beyond the five senses can be comprehended therefore exist, this is quite understandable.

When we talk about the inner self, this is still projecting an inner environment as opposed to an outer environment through the five senses. Only through the five senses can the existence of an inner and outer environment or self exist, this is because in out, back forth, up down, are all based on our five senses. Our five senses were created by our physical environment and our physical environment is completely determined to what is in out, back forth, up down, in other words time based realities or existences. We, through our five senses, have projected an existence of day and night on a revolving planet going around the sun. We are completely conditioned to a reality of days and nights therefore time. Is not the projection of day and night the same as the inner and outer self? The projection being, one is inner so the other is outer. This is still based primarily of the conditioning of the five senses.

As in night and day, we are still projecting an image of an inner and outer self which is still primarily based on time therefore our five senses. The inner self exist only because the outer self exists as in day only exists because night exists. These are simply projections governed by our physical environment, no more. Isn't the perception of an inner self reliant on the existence of an outer self, in other words the inner self owes it's existence to the perception of an outer self, as in day and night. Within this, we are still primarily reliant on a physical existence and time to give us a projected image of an inner self. Now imagine going beyond this projection.

I have inserted a small article bellow where Sadhguru mentions the inner self. In my own words, the atman, the eternal self, refers to the real self beyond ego; this is what is known as the inner self, a self in the absence of ego. This egoless self is projected to being inner only because the present environment we are experiencing is ego. The ego is projected as being of the outer self and the self in the absence of ego is projected as being the inner self. What makes an inner and outer state in the absence of ego? Ego completely relies on time to exist, in other words motion like in out, back forth, up down, starting and ending points. In a state in the absence of ego, inner and outer selves simply don't exist, only in existences based on time and motion can inner and outer selves exist. What we project to be our eternal self is not governed by time because in this state there is no starting or ending points, it's simply an eternal state of being. Instead of stating an eternal state of being, we most often state inner self, how else is the ego self going to relate to the eternal self otherwise? This is exactly like nothing beyond the five senses can be comprehended therefore exist, this is unless we use what the five senses comprehends, in out, back forth, up down, starting and ending points.

Once you comprehend the inner self, the eternal self, let go of this projection of the inner self. In reality though, once you truly comprehend the eternal self, there is no ego in control to stay attached to the projection of the inner self as opposed to the outer self.

I truly hope this is comprehensible as I am aware where this kind of awareness can lead.       

https://isha.sadhguru.org/in/en/wisdom/article/a-perception-beyond-the-physical

Extract: People are always asking me, “Sadhguru, you are talking about so many subjects. Where do you get the time to read?” I say, “I don’t read.” What is there in front of me, I perceive it as it is and that is it. There is no need to carry the burden of knowledge on your head if your perception is keen enough. So perception can be raised to various levels through certain inner instruments. “Is it very difficult? Can I rise beyond my senses? Do I have to withdraw to a Himalayan cave to do this?”