Written by Mathew Naismith
Could you imagine someone being thankful
for the pain they experience, most people would perceive that to be thankful
for the pain they experience is of self-harm or even satanic. It is not the
pain itself you become thankful for but in how you cope with pain.
In very recent times, my wife and I have
been at the receiving end of a great deal of intentional abuse by a person who
we thought was close to us. As it turned out, we were being abused for some
years now by this person.
Intentional abuse is often build upon
desired truths, lies and deceit, where unintentional abuse could be simply
telling the truth in how it is, not how we would desire the truth to be told.
Also, if a person is going through trauma and is abusive, this abuse is often
unintentional, this is quite different to a person who desires to believe they
are or where hard done by. In this case
the trauma experienced is fabricated, however, the trauma this fabrication
creates is real, within their own sense.
My own ego was greatly hurt by what we
experienced, but my wife was devastated which added to my own hurt. You must
remember, only the ego can feel pain, yes, especially physical pain. The more
pain we experience, the more the ego is in control so how can anyone be
thankful for this but the ego in control? In our relation, if you hurt one, you
hurt the other, even to a greater extent which this person has no idea of as
their own life experiences are limited to their fabricated childhood traumas it
would seem.
There are people who can mange physical
pain, as I have myself done to a certain extent, to the extent that they feel
no physical or mental pain. Your physical body and mind is a representation of
ego, as of all motion is, this is why so many spiritual practices are about
quietening the mind (motion). The human mind is all to do with motion therefore
ego. By being thankful for pain is actually taking away a lot of the motion
pain expresses. I am really thankful what pain has made me aware of, for I
learn from life instead of suffering from life.
So what is actually doing the learning
here? The ego of course, there is
nothing else that has to become aware or learned. My own ego is thankful
for the pain because I learn from the pain and not suffer from the pain. Yes, I
still suffer from pain but end up learning from this pain. As for the person
who intentionally abused us for so long, they have not learnt to not suffer
from pain, in truth, exasperate this pain even further. Yes, they feel good in
their abuse towards us, they feel they have won the day, but unknowingly to
themselves, their real suffering has just begun.
Don't get me wrong, my ego is still
bewildered at how the ego itself can be thankful for pain, but my ego is aware
this is better than suffering from pain. As I have had a chronic injury since I
was six years old, I know about physical and mental pain. I am so thankful for
learning from all this pain instead of just simply suffering from all this
pain, of course all this pain is simply only of the ego (motion), nothing else.
This will sound even stranger to a lot of people;
I can even appreciate suffering from
pain, for to not be appreciative of the suffering of pain is to suffer from
pain!!
When the ego starts to learn from the
suffering of pain, instead of suffering from the suffering of pain, is when the
human ego has reached a certain point of conscious awareness beyond suffering.
Of course trying to simply escape this pain in any sense is to still suffer
from this pain. Pain must be embraced to
move on from the suffering of pain, this is very important.
Because my wife and I are now to the point
of not suffering the abuse of this person, we are at the point of learning from
this abuse. Of course one of the lessons of learning from abuse is to not keep
on suffering from abuse. You learn and move on from abuse, you don't stay with
the abuse to be abused more, as the ego in control desires to do.
Yes, again you embrace pain, but this time
not to suffer from pain but for your ego to learn from pain. "Pain is
negatives therefore something to avoid at all cost." Yes,
avoid the suffering in the absence of learning from the suffering of pain, but
don't avoid learning from the suffering of pain!! So many are simply avoiding pain
altogether, they will certainly avoid learning from the suffering of pain, so
what was all this pain about?
When our ego starts to learn from suffering
from pain, our consciousness enters into a new stage of awareness. If we
continue to suffer from the suffering of pain, our consciousness will simply
suffer instead of becoming aware. In other words our consciousness, our ego
controlled consciousness, will not become enlightened but stay unenlightened.
Ego creates dense matter, as of the
universe, which also creates a dense (dumb) mind/consciousness, consciousness
of the ego that is unenlightened, unaware, until awakened. Remember, the only thing that can become aware or enlightened is the
ego, so ignoring this because it is negative in any sense will do what? It
certainly won't lead to enlightenment of a consciousness or ego.
Yes I know, if you harp on about or focus
on the negatives, the ego, all you will do is manifest even more negatives!! If
you focus on the suffering of pain and only suffer from this instead of
learning from this, this is true, but if you learn from this suffering by not
simply ignoring the negatives, a consciousness can't help but become more
aware. You are not learning therefore
becoming more aware if the ego is ignored because it is negative. This is
why the ego needs to learn to embrace even the suffering of the ego, to finally
let it all go. Simply ignoring the negative ego is only going the manifest more
of what a negative ego creates, suffering from suffering.
Try to remember, it is only the ego that
can become aware or enlightened, be it judged negative or positive, but of
course only can the ego judge in negatives and positives thus creating more
separation of consciousness energy.